{"id":335,"date":"2014-11-04T01:00:39","date_gmt":"2014-11-04T06:00:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/withskillfulhands.com\/?p=335"},"modified":"2026-04-01T16:21:40","modified_gmt":"2026-04-01T16:21:40","slug":"run-to-conflict","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/withskillfulhands.com\/index.php\/2014\/11\/04\/run-to-conflict\/","title":{"rendered":"Run to Conflict"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>One of the many mistakes I&#8217;ve made as a leader is to ignore a problem hoping it will go away. But I&#8217;ve learned the hard way that if\u00a0you see a problem within the church\u00a0(i.e. problem people or situations) <strong>you need to\u00a0<\/strong><b><em>run<\/em> to conflict<\/b>. Things only get worse, not better &#8211; and <b>problems NEVER solve themselves<\/b>. Let me illustrate what I mean&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>I remember not shoveling my driveway one time after a snow storm.\u00a0Well, after a couple days of driving over that snow, combined with freezing temperatures, my driveway turned into an iceskating rink. Having a wife and young kids, and being concerned for their safety, I finally got around to\u00a0shoveling the driveway. Let me tell you, it would&#8217;ve been <em>way<\/em> easier to just deal with the snow the same day it fell. But I put it off, creating a bigger and more difficult problem to deal with in the long run.<\/p>\n<p>This is exactly what happens when we ignore problem people or situations within the church. By putting off a crucial conversation, we create bigger and more difficult problems for ourselves. Wishing the problem will go away on its own is liking hearing your car making a funny noise and thinking it will go away on its own (vs getting worse). That&#8217;s just not how the world operates, unfortunately.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>So even though it&#8217;s uncomfortable, we need to run to conflict. Because problems never solve themselves and only get worse with time.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One of the many mistakes I&#8217;ve made as a leader is to ignore a problem hoping it will go away. But I&#8217;ve learned the hard way that if\u00a0you see a problem within the church\u00a0(i.e. problem people or situations) you need to\u00a0run to conflict. Things only get worse, not better &#8211; and problems NEVER solve themselves. [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-335","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-failures","7":"entry"},"featured_image_src":null,"featured_image_src_square":null,"author_info":{"display_name":"Mike","author_link":"https:\/\/withskillfulhands.com\/index.php\/author\/mike\/"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/withskillfulhands.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/335","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/withskillfulhands.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/withskillfulhands.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/withskillfulhands.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/withskillfulhands.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=335"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/withskillfulhands.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/335\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1218,"href":"https:\/\/withskillfulhands.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/335\/revisions\/1218"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/withskillfulhands.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=335"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/withskillfulhands.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=335"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/withskillfulhands.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=335"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}